Wednesday, August 27, 2008

what needs to change, doesnt

*i didnt write this, its from a newsletter i get emailed from

i'm not a client, i just get the emails*

its good so read it and remember what i say is god.

A client tells me he needs his sister to get on board with nursing care for their aging mother.

Another client needs to sell her house - pronto!

Just last week, I needed my missing cat to come back home.

It seems our need for change is nonstop, and yet when we need something to change we actually empower the very condition we don't want.

That's because the energy of "need" - the insistence on change - actually engages more of the opposing condition. You know, "what we resist, persists."

Lao Tzu said it in the Tao Te Ching like this:
"Simply notice the natural order of things. Work with it rather than against it. For to try to change what is only sets up resistance."
Sound familiar? Abraham readers hear this as "making peace with what is" in order to allow the shift. We've got to release resistance in order to get what we want, and that includes releasing the need for things to be different than they are.

It doesn't make much sense on the face of it, does it? We accept things as they are now, and that's what allows change?


Who saw U.S. gymnast Raj Bhavsar's vision board in his Olympic coverage interview? He talks about how he had to release his need and make peace with what he didn't want back in 2004. And guess who ended up replacing Paul Hamm on the team this year?

Raj makes it look easy, but I know it isn't always so. For some reason, we've been conditioned to believe that pushing against something is the most effective way to change it.

But that's not how it best works.

Needing something to change, in order to feel better or gain peace of mind or happiness, doesn't work.

We've seen this in action many times, right? Like the couple who struggles to get pregnant finally gives up (either by adopting or changing their minds) and next thing you know she's knocked up?

Or when we need a new job there aren't any to be had, but when we're happy as a lark we see employment opportunities left and right?

Or how the light always turns red when we most need to get through it?

Needing something to be different than it is is to be in resistance. And resistance is a surefire stopper to your manifesting success.

My suggestion is to recognize where you're needing something to change, and start making peace with it. That doesn't mean giving up your desire, or thinking you can't have it - it just means marrying up acceptance of what is with a light, pleasant, positive expectation of your desire. Raj is a good example of that.

My client practiced no longer "needing" his sister to agree with him on what's best for mom. He made peace with the fact that they didn't see eye to eye, and took steps that felt good to him under current circumstances. With the release of that tension, he's actually paved the way for mutual understanding and common ground.

Releasing your need for things to be different than they are takes the charge off, the manifesting brakes off, and allows you to get what you want. But don't take my word for it - try it yourself!

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